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They do it for love. They do it for sex. They do it to feel beautiful and boost their self-esteem.why women get married, but why women cheat on the men they have married.

Female infidelity is not a new phenomenon, but it is a fact of life that many people, including women, don't want to acknowledge. While the cheating man has long been the subject of boasts, jokes, novels and movies, the unfaithful woman is now getting more attention and scrutiny. And justifiably so. Whereas decades ago, the unfaithful wife was a rarity, an abnormality, today's missus is more likely to cheat than her predecessors.

The first reliable estimate concerning infidelity was made in 1953 by renowned sex researcher Alfred Kinsey, who in his landmark study found that 50 percent of husbands and 26 percent of wives surveyed had cheated by age 40. However, in recent years, women have been catching up to men. A 1997 Ball State University study suggests that young women, those under age 40, are just as likely to commit adultery as men their age. Among older couples, the stereotype of men being more likely to stray holds true.

Sex researchers agree that today more women are committing adultery. At the same time, more and more women are working outside the home alongside men, oftentimes in office environments that are charged with sexual electricity. In addition, some studies show that the more sexual partners a person has before marriage, the more likely she or he is to cheat on a spouse.

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The researchers asked 201 unmarried, heterosexual college students to complete questionnaires about their sexual attitudes, experience and behaviour, and the age at which they first had sexual intercourse - but in a twist, the participants completed the questionnaire under three different conditions including one in which they believed they were connected to a lie detector.

In that group, participants had electrodes placed on their hand, forearms and neck and were told they were being attached to a polygraph (lie detector) machine, which in fact was an old model that didn't actually work. They were also told the polygraph was sensitive enough to detect dishonesty even in written responses, then left alone in a room to answer their questionnaires.

A second group filled out the sex surveys alone in a room and were told their answers would be completely anonymous, while the third group was led to believe the researcher might view their responses and the researcher sat right outside the testing room with the door open.

Women's answers were closer to men's in some areas of sexual behaviour when they thought lies could be detected. Men's answers didn't change as much as did women's under different testing conditions.

The women who thought their answers might be read, for example, reported an average of only 2.6 sexual partners, but those who thought they were monitored by the lie detector reported an average of 4.4 sexual partners. Women who were not attached to the lie detector, but who had privacy during testing, gave answers in the middle - an average of 3.4 sexual partners.

Men's answers didn't vary as much: those who thought they were attached to a polygraph reported an average of 4.0 sexual partners, compared with 3.7 partners for those who thought their answers might be seen.

Bob Beale – ABC Science Online

At least one in 10 children was not sired by the man who believes he is their father, according to scientists in paternity testing laboratories.
Some laboratories have reported the level of "unexpected" paternity to be as high as one in seven when they perform DNA genetic tests on blood samples from supposed parent and offspring.

Why affairs happen
There are as many reasons why people have affairs as there are people. But usually an affair is an external sign of an internal desire for change. Something in the person's life or the relationship isn't OK - and the affair creates the trigger for change.
Affairs aren't only about sex. In fact, relationship experts maintain that any intimate activity between two people that breaches the trust of a partner constitutes an affair.

Types of affairs
Although there are many reasons for affairs, most fall into one of four categories:

The boat-rocking affair - when one partner has an underlying dissatisfaction with the relationship. The affair is an unconscious way of drawing attention to the problem and bringing things into the open.

The exit affair - when an affair is used to get out of a relationship. Rather than confront the fact that a relationship isn't working, an affair forces the issue.
The thrill affair - the illicit nature of an affair brings with it an adrenaline rush. Add to that the excitement of sex with someone new and the romantic trimmings of a fresh relationship, and it can seem irresistible.

The three's company affair - can go on for years; it can also describe a string of successive affairs. Some people find it difficult to commit to one person; they feel stifled by monogamy and fear putting all their emotional eggs in one basket. Having a third person on the scene can provide an outlet for difficult emotions.

Cyber affairs
Intimate and meaningful, friendships can develop easily on the internet. This can pose a real threat to committed relationships

One click to intimacy
Communicating online allows intimacy to build very quickly. When you can't see the person you're talking to and they can't see you, you're less likely to feel judged. You won't be looking to see if they raise their eyebrows in disbelief. And they can't see if you look nervous or embarrassed. This means you're both more likely to reveal personal information much earlier than you would in a face-to-face situation.
The downside is that if you can't see someone's face, it's hard to know if they're lying. It's easy to misrepresent yourself online, to kid someone you're something that you're not. And if someone is desperate for love or friendship, they are more likely to fantasise that the person they're talking to is the perfect partner.

Cyber affairs
Some people go online specifically to find sexual partners. But for many, cyber affairs start off as genuine attempts at friendship. Intimacy can develop so quickly online that many are shocked at how soon an online relationship becomes sexual.
Some will try to justify their behaviour saying it's not really an affair, but relationship experts agree that any intimate activity between two people that breaches the trust of a partner is. And that most certainly includes online relationship.

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Have you ever cheated on someone?

▪ Yes 41%

▪ No 59%

Have you ever been cheated on?

▪ Yes 68%

▪ No 32%

Would you be unfaithful if you knew your partner would never find out?

▪ Yes 8%

▪ No 92%

Husbands who admit to cheating on a spouse

▪ Reported in Men's Health Best Life, 2003
1 in 20 (5%)

Wives who admit to cheating on a spouse

▪ Reported in Men's Health Best Life, 2003
1 in 22 (4.55%)

▪ Reported in Oprah Magazine, 2004
15%

Number of guys who take off their wedding rings when they go out without their wives

▪ 1 in 3

Percentage of cheating men who get caught

▪ 80%

Percentage of couple who preserve their marriage after an affair

▪ 64%

Of those couples who remain married despite an affair, what percentage later describe the marriage as unhappy or empty?

▪ 78%